Wednesday, November 27, 2013

Alicia's Story -- Baby Kenneth, Stillborn at 22 weeks

Alicia contacted me through email and asked if she could share the story of her son. Kenneth was stillborn just last week, following 9 years of trying to conceive and a diagnosis of secondary infertility.

Thank you, Alicia, for sharing the story and photos of your beloved son.

-- Rachel

I recently gave birth to my son Kenneth Raymond, Jr. He was 22 weeks and 5 days old. He was 11" and weighed 1 lb., 10.5 oz.

My son was healthy, and up until that point, my pregnancy was problem free. He didn't take his first breath but he "lived." He lived inside my heart and he made his presence known from the inside every day.

The journey I've endured to conceive my son started nine years ago. I had many difficulties trying to get pregnant. I was diagnosed with secondary infertility after two years of trying. I've taken fertility drugs, I've done artificial insemination but to no avail. I still wasn't pregnant.

I had personally given up and had begun to deal with the fact that I would possibly never have children. After getting married last year, my husband would tell me of these visions he had of me carrying his child. Those visions and the way he described them were music to my ears and that alone made me look into seeking treatment again. After some tests we found out that my fallopian tubes were blocked and that that was probably the reason why I've been having a hard time conceiving.

I opted to have laparoscopic surgery to open my tubes, and lo and behold three months later I was pregnant with our son. I was ecstatic and my family was so excited for me because they knew how much I had longed for this. My one goal in life when I was a child was to be a mom.

Two days before losing my son, I had what I thought would be a regular monthly check up with my doctor. I mentioned some spotting and slight bleeding from the day before which prompted them to do a speculum exam. I had begun to dilate and my son's membranes had begun to bulge through my cervix. I was sent to the emergency room right away. I was admitted and kept under observation. I was having contractions I had yet to feel and my cervix was slowly opening throughout the day.

I had high hopes in getting a cerclage placed in but it was too late. My son was slowly pushing through and through. This was all due to a bacterial infection and an incompetent cervix. There was nothing my husband and I could do except expect the arrival of our son.

He was absolutely beautiful. The moment I held him in my arms was pure bliss. It tore me up inside to have to let him go knowing that meant I'd be coming home with nothing but a card with his prints and two pictures of his lifeless body.


It hurts every day. Without the love and support of my husband, I'm not sure where or how I'd be right now. As our last wish, we decided to cremate our son so that he could be by our side forever.

It's a scary thought for us right now, but we have hopes in conceiving a child again. Our son in some type of way has taught us what to look out for this time around. Because of him, we know what has to be done in order to carry out a full-term pregnancy.

Thank you for letting me share my story. I hope it inspires others to do the same.


  1. Alicia, Thank you for sharing your story, I sit here in tears over the loss of your son. He is beautiful. I will be praying for your journey ahead of you.

  2. So heartbroken for this sweet family! Hugs & prayers - for their comfort and for future plans to try again. <3

  3. Thanks for sharing your beautiful son. I am so sorry for your loss. <3

  4. I have faith that when the time is will be blessed again. In the meanwhile...I'll be praying for you and your husband as you grieve. Peace be with you. Jen

  5. What a heartbreaking story. I'm so sorry Alicia. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

  6. So very sorry you have had to endure such heart ache and brokenness. You son is alive in Heaven because you gave him life. He is lovingly carried for on the knee's of angels.

  7. So very sorry for your loss.

  8. Your son is beautiful, just beautiful. I am sorry you had such a short time with him. He will never be forgotten and always carried in your heart.
    I pray the Lord will grant you the desires of your heart. May God Bless You!

  9. Some lady in Big Stone Gap, VA is using pictures of your son to scam people. She is telling people that his name is Jacob and that he is hers. Her name is Sarah Baldwin, and her rap sheet is a mile long.

  10. There is a girl in Muskogee, Oklahoma name Jessica Heard that is using your baby picture as her own to get sympathy and attention from the whole community. People are mourning the loss a baby that is not even hers. I'm so sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing your story.

  11. Amber Brewer from Fayetteville, NC is using your son's photo and claiming it to be her daughter that she lost in Sept of this year. I've reported all of the pictures.

  12. I don't find it funny that this picture is being tossed around. It's funny that this baby was just born and everyone is using it.